What Is on the Minds of Children of Service Members
THE LOSS OF ORDINARY LIFE When dad goes into service, all the child’s routines and the familiar order of life change. Dad used to take them to nursery, play football and read a bedtime story. Now it is mum, another relative, or...
10 Features of Working with Children in the Gestalt Approach
Working with children in the Gestalt approach has its own unique features that set it apart from working with adults. Here are 10 key points worth the attention of every therapist: 1. Play as the main tool: Children express their emotions and...
Personal Boundaries: How to Tell They Are Being Violated and How to Protect Them
Personal boundaries are a mysterious thing: you cannot see them or touch them, and yet they matter enormously to us. Personal boundaries are not fixed; they shift depending on how close we are to particular people. So how can you tell that...
Existential Loneliness: What It Is and How to Cope With It
Existential loneliness is a deep inner anxiety, accompanied by longing and sadness, that can stay with a person constantly or surface at particular times of life. Let us look more closely at what this state is and how to cope with it....
Love, Gestalt Style
Who has never wondered what love actually is? Everyone has, of course! And what does a typical Gestalt therapist think about it? Let us take a look! In Gestalt therapy love is regarded as a dynamic process «here and now» that calls...
Impostor Syndrome: An Invisible Threat to Intimacy
Impostor syndrome is most often associated with careers: the feeling that you are not competent enough, that your achievements are a fluke, and that any moment now someone will «expose» you. But this phenomenon reaches far deeper into life, into relationships in...
Reparation Instead of Separation
Separation is not merely a process of physical, emotional and value-based detachment from one’s parents. It is the only opportunity to meet your own Self, to come to know it, to gain your own unique self-identity. In the course of a child’s...
23 Lessons from the Buddha That Will Help You Let Go of Worry
The Buddha is the legendary founder of Buddhism in India. There is nothing in his teaching that would contradict the foundations of inner harmony of any other religious or philosophical tradition. That is probably why his teaching is so popular and finds...
Notes from «Heart to Heart, or How to Be Congruent in Relationships» by Mirabella Belilovska
Heart to heart, or how to be congruent in relationships Marcus Aurelius Today I want to talk about perception, and about how perception affects our reflection and our actions. As I see it, there is the real: the vast, abundant world around...
“Now and How” Instead of “Here and Now”
The phrase “now and how”, coined by Perls, explains the essence of Gestalt therapy better than the traditional “here and now”, which by now is used in many approaches. There are many methods oriented towards being present “here and now”: the Rogerian...