The Tasks of Psychotherapy: Based on the Book “Girl on a Ball”
The tasks of therapy: 🔸 Compassion for the client and acceptance of them as they are, together with their childhood ways of adapting to life (it matters to legitimise and accept the way they were forced to use from early childhood in...
What Does Healthy Contact Between Generations Look Like?
Relationships between children and parents – what does healthy contact between generations look like? So, family relationships… What makes this bond unique? Why is it that in one family love and support become the ground of the relationship, while in another there...
A Reminder for Someone Who Is Codependent
You are all right. You really are all right. If it seems to you that something is wrong with you, it isn’t so. If you are anxious and it seems your partner is displeased with you, that doesn’t mean you urgently need...
When You Start Living Together, the Projections Fall Away
The person to whom you entrusted your soul, to whom you threw it wide open, believing them to be the closest of all, turns out to be just as ordinary a mortal as the rest of us. They are afraid of something,...
Can the Gestalt Approach Be Used in Organisations?
Of course it can! And it should be! The Gestalt approach makes it possible to turn human experience from a set of hidden obstacles on the way to a goal into a powerful resource. The heart of Gestalt is a developmental kind...
The Paradox of Pain: The Way Out Is Where the Way In Was
In today’s world, where pain and suffering are often seen as something to be avoided at any cost, the idea of the “paradox of pain” offers a different view. The paradox is that it is precisely through feeling pain that we can...
The Search for Relationships and the Fear of Isolation. Irvin Yalom
A person usually tries to ease their fear of isolation through interpersonal contact in the following ways: · they need the presence of others in order to confirm their own existence; · they long to be absorbed by others who appear to...
In search of inner strength
On our way through life we often come to crossroads that demand a choice of us: to keep struggling or to let go, to allow ourselves to follow the current. Yet do we recognise in these moments that the real question we...
Louise Hay on creating your own world of limitless possibilities
Repeat after me: Pause for a moment and think about these words: Not some one thing, not a few separate moments, but everything. By believing that everything is possible, you open your mind to solutions for any of life’s problems. We possess...
Why are other people sometimes more important to us than we are ourselves?
Far too often another person becomes extraordinarily valuable to us only because we devalue ourselves. It takes considerable courage to ask the fundamental question: For example, if I want someone else to take care of my self-esteem, then my expectations are addressed...